Friday, February 11, 2011

my mother put my brother's ashes in a christmas tin

i found it just a little distasteful. but, i am still looking around for a suitable urn type thing to keep him in. actual urns are freekin expensive. well i have him in something that sorta suited his style and personality, but im still hunting. anyways, the reason i mentioed it.. my little 2 year old daughter just found the christmas tin my brother used to be in, and brought it to me. and i looked at the bottom for the first time, and its got his name and date of birth/death on there on a little peel on/off sticky tab.
really? a sticker? is this the best she could do for my brother? a FUCKING  CHRISTMAS TIN AND A STICKER????
i dont know why, but this is really bothering me

5 comments:

  1. To me, it seems pretty obvious why it's bothering you. :( I would be bothered too -- you just don't feel that a Christmas tin with a peel off sticker was a suitable resting place for your brother, period. The sticker just sort of adds 'insult to injury' I think, or at least that's how a lot of people might feel, regardless of whether or not your mom meant any harm or not. Was it just a temporary resting place for him until she could buy something more suitable?

    I'm really sorry this is bothering you, Zeri. :( I don't mean any disrespect towards your mother at all...but yeah, I would be bothered too. Can you talk to her about it? Or would that be a waste of time..?

    Thank goodness you're trying to give him a proper final resting place.

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  2. yeah maybe it was only temporary, she split him up into 3 parts so i could have a piece, she could have a piece, and my other sister i think. we all live so far apart, and he lived so far away, that a physical resting place just didnt make sense.

    yeah i guess its just the way it seems she threw it all together in about 5 minutes that bothers me. with whatever she had lying around :/

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  3. Oh wow I'm sorry hun. Thats awful :(
    From past things you've wrote about your mother and things she's said/done.. It makes me just want to give you a *hug*.

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  4. thanx :)
    yeah i love my mother.. but i really dont like her.
    shes really selfish and condescending. she make herself feel better by tearing other people down. shes what dr phil might call an emotional terrorist lol.

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  5. yeah maybe it was only temporary, she split him up into 3 parts so i could have a piece, she could have a piece, and my other sister i think. we all live so far apart, and he lived so far away, that a physical resting place just didnt make sense.

    yeah i guess its just the way it seems she threw it all together in about 5 minutes that bothers me. with whatever she had lying around :/

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