i do try to be unbiased in my desicion making.. try to see things from both points of view before i react.. but perhaps sometimes i let emotion get in the way a little.
last night a guildy, lets call him bob. bob is usualy a pretty arrogant and bossy individual. well last night he seems to be in a foul mood. another guildie says something stupid in chat like 'i love boobies'. of course the female members werent entirely thrilled (myself included) and one female member in particular,, lets call her jan, saied somthing to the effect of 'im not gay so no i dont love boobies'.
so bob, who wasnt even really a part of the boobies conversation, pops in with 'well get a mastectomy then' 0_0
her husband immediately says 'um.. no'
but jan and i were particular annoyed by this statement. i said, 'just because we arent obsessed with our own bodyparts doesnt mean we should hack them off.' at this point my bf chanced the subject before it got ugly.
so later on, not 15 minutes maybe, bob come in again complaining about someone in his party who sitting down during the instance. at first we laughed and made light of it, but he just keeps going on and on. and a few of us were like 'hey sometimes we sit and replenish mana too'
well then he goes off about how ppl are inconsiderate and should think of their squad and bla bla.
im really getting irritated now, but trying to find a way to calm the conversation. well jan tells him to stfu and puts him on ignore.
then he continues ranting and i said 'calm your tone'
so he PMs me! 'she can tell me to shut the fuck up but i cant defend myself and bla bla' now perhaps it was because i was already pissed off about his earlier comments, but maybe i WAS a little biased. im not sure. but i told him the calm you tone remark was for everybody. he shuts up, but about an hour later he mumbles some lame excuse about his friend from his old guild being back and he leaves guild. im sure there were cheers all around.
but perhaps i could have handled it better. did i let my anger cloud my judgment in this? should i have been more curt with jan too? im not really looking to get this fellow back (arrogant dipshit) but i do want to handle these sort of situation better in the future. i cant let my personal feelings get in the way of my judgements.. not as a leader. just not sure i handled this one properly